You call this child abuse?

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I call it self restrains and keeping control on Niurka Ramirez‘s behalf!I watched the video of Niurka Ramirez spraying that child. I didn’t see one thing wrong with what she did. Ok , for those of you who feel that she did something wrong, let me ask you…….

Do you feel like she did something wrong, with the action she took, because of the kind of attachment that was on the hose?

What would you have done?

I can see where this paranoid and corrupt society would be able to imagine that Niurka had pulled the trigger and harmed the child by increasing the pressure of the water. But SHE DIDN’T! The pressure from the spray coming out when your not pressing the trigger isn’t enough to harm human skin.

I feel like Niurka was in full control of herself and the situation. She admits being a single mom. How many of you are or have been single parents?

Anyone who is dealing with the stresses of daily life to include temper tantrums (or sibling rivalry and all the other things that come with raising children) and not actually harming or putting the children in any real danger, while keeping control of it all , are heroes.

She said that her daughter had been throwing this tantrum for an extended period of time, while she was driving to the carwash. How many of you have ever had a small child throwing a tantrum while you were driving down the road?

Niurka held her cool, trying to calm the child the whole time, according to her own statements, and this is what it took to calm the child without harming her.

I raised three on my own. There were times when I was at my wits end. Water was one thing that I did use! It got their attention, the feeling of being wet really gets your attention when someone else has just wet you, without your consent or knowing it was going to happen. It works when used properly. And no one gets hurt.

 SOME EXAMPLES

When there was a sibling rivalry going on, and there were many, and I could not get them to stop yelling at each other, running after each other through the house - with real intentions of doing bodily harm to the other, once when one of them was throwing a tantrum.

I would get a cup of cold water and just splash it on them. If they were in a rivalry I was able to stop them long enough to get their attentions so we could calm down, sit down and talk it out . Come to a happy medium in the dispute or find out what is bothering them and work it out with the love and teamwork it takes to have a happy loving family bond.

One of the kids (pre-teen) was throwing a temper tantrum in the kitchen. This one was about to get ugly! This child had lost all control of herself and was on the verge of total destruction. She picked up a plate and was getting in stance to throw the plate through the house.

I happened to be standing at the sink at the time. I picked up the sprayer, turned on the water full blast, aimed right at her and pressed the trigger. Bulls eye! I got soaked the back of her head and her shirt. She was able to stop the madness in it’s tracks. She didn’t throw the plate. She looked around the room. Realized what had just happened. Became upset that she had been “gotten” , placed the plate on the table and ran to her room. She was inside the room (which she shared with her sister) alone for about two hours . When she came out her whole world had transformed into the peaceful, calm, caring, loving person she really was.

One of my kids has a hard time with mornings. She was born nocturnal, runs in the family. She hates to get up in the mornings to do anything. If not constantly prompted every few minutes (for many years as a child) she would be late for the school bus, or what ever it was she had to wake for.

I would take a cup of water into her room and pour a small amount of cold water on her head. Not her face, but on her hair. I didn’t put her in danger. I didn’t hit her with anything. I didn’t drag her out of bed and throw her across the room, I didn’t yell at her. I didn’t harm her in any way. It didn’t take too many times of me pouring water on her hair before she would get up when it was time to get up.

Think about it.

How can it be abuse for a parent to do what ever it takes to keep the children in control of themselves, without harming the child or allowing the child to hurt themselves or others?

I look at it this way. I taught my children that you have to stop and calm youself, think it. Do Not allow anger to control yourself you control yourself. I taught them that teamwork only works when you work it.

If you feel I was a “Bad Parent” for incorporating water into a form of keeping control of 3 kids, alone, then so be it.

I can tell you that for the most part they didn’t turned out to be caring, intelligent, strong, independent and self sufficient people.

I heard Niurka say that sees how she “has made a wrong choice“. That tells me that public statement was just to please the public. I can’t see where she made a wrong choice, can you?

Sincerly,

A fellow Single Mom